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Avoiding Court With Mediation

by | Oct 23, 2018

Mediation is a process that helps you and your partner avoid a drawn-out court divorce. A good mediator will help the two of you reach a settlement that works for both of you, without the hassle and stress of a court date.

Why is it necessary to look into mediation?

A mediator is someone with no personal stakes in your relationship. They will be able to help you and your partner come to a good decision on a lot of matters. If you have children, they can help plan custody or child support, if you have a house or any real estate they can help you divide that up as well. Having a mediator will help the two of you make decisions without going for each other’s throats.

Ending a marriage is emotionally draining and stressful which can cause you to lash out and make poor decisions. A mediator will simply guide you and your partner through the process of divorce and teach you how to talk to each other. Keeping things civil between you is best for you, your partner, your children, and anyone involved.

Will the mediator be in charge?

The answer is no. You will still be the one making all of the important decisions. A mediator is there to advise you on your best options and plans, he or she will help you consider what your life will look like afterwards before you go into it, because you definitely should expect change.

Being Prepared

Here are a few things that you will need to bring for your first meeting with a mediator:

  1. A list of all of your assets with your partner
  2. If you had a prenuptial agreement, be sure to bring a copy of that.
  3. A valuation of your home
  4. Income tax return copies
  5. Statements of your retirement accounts

Make sure to jot down any questions that you have before and during the meeting to go over afterwards. You will meet with your mediator with your spouse in order to get comfortable with them. Having a mediator is much more personal than going through lawyers and court. A mediator’s job is to make you feel relaxed and make the process go smoothly for each of you. Having a CFP® will help you understand costs during this process, which is very helpful.

Mediation will save you and your family money. Deciding on a divorce mediator will help the two of you go through the divorce as quickly, cheaply, and painlessly as possible. Staying out of a courtroom makes things much less stressful for everyone involved.