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How To Be Positive Divorce is the Next Best Step

by | Oct 25, 2018

When you first start seeing someone, you see your relationship through rose colored glasses. You think that that person is perfect, has no flaws, and you are completely willing and ready to start a life together. You start planning out where to live, how many children you want, and how happy you both will be forever. Unfortunately, sometimes this period does not last. You start seeing flaws in your relationship that you didn’t notice before, and problems arise that neither of you have solutions to. Here are some things you need to think about before you decide that the divorce is the only option.

First of all, you need to make sure that you have done everything in your power to make the relationship work. Have you put in the time and effort to sort through your problems? Have you tried to offer up solutions? Are you willing to compromise with your partner? Have you sought out any marital help or advice from a professional? In order to avoid remorse down the line, you need to be positive that you have tried your absolute hardest to make things work.

If you are completely sure that you have tried everything, and the relationship is well past saving, you need to think about what life will look like after your divorce. You need to understand that by separating from a partner, you are going to be changing lifestyles. You will need to be in a place to financially support yourself, instead of the two of you supporting each other. Now is a good time to meet with a financial planner such as myself to help walk you through the process and show you what your finances will look like afterwards.

It is a good time to start informing yourself on what your finances look like, if you are not already aware. You should be prepared before you start the divorce process, so that you know exactly what your life will look like afterwards. It is a very good idea to seek out the help of a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) or financial planner to walk you through it.

Going through a divorce is a long and trying process. Be sure to have a good team of people by your side to support you and help you through it. Having friends or family to help you along the way will make you feel less alone during this time. It may seem impossible right now, but you’ll make it past this.